How to Shift Your Perspective to Become the Hero in Your Life
If you keep finding yourself in the same life situations or relationships then it may be time to shift your perspective in order to see a new outcome. Perhaps you are always having to find another job because you keep finding yourself in conflicts with coworkers or you keep getting laid off. Or you maybe you are constantly falling for the same type of spouse who is always emotionally unavailable. I know this used to happen to me. It could feel like being in that movie Groundhog’s Day. Until you learn to take responsibility for the situations and circumstances in your life, and stop seeing yourself as a victim, then you can change your life to what you desire and stop reliving the same scenarios. If you struggle with changing your mindsetthen blog will give you tips on how to shift your perspective.
How to Shift Your Perspective- Step 1
The first step to shifting your perspective is to first become aware of what you want to change. Too often we see negative aspects of our health, relationship, career or etc and we simply think, “It is what it is.” We just roll over to life’s obstacles and accept that our situation or condition will never change simply because our attemps in the past failed or other people suffer from the same thing.
If you are familiar with how the Law of Attraction works, here is a little break down:
Regardless of whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, you can’t deny that your thoughts help create your reality. So if you want to make changes in any area in your life, then you must start with becoming aware of your current mindset first.
Step 2
The second step to shift your perspective is to analyze your current beliefs about the situation. For example, you might think,
“I’m never going to lose weight.”
“I sleep through my alarm every morning.”
“I’m lazy and clearly not cut out for this.”
“I might as well give up.”
When you take the time to analyze your thoughts, then you can take inventory on which ones are helping your situation, or hurting your situation. It may help for you to write down your current beliefs about the situation because when you put pen to paper then you can really see what has been living in your mind and holding you back.
Step 3
The 3rd step to shifting your perspective is where you separate fact from fiction. Separating fact from fiction is where you take inventory on your thoughts and realize which ones are tangible facts or which ones are simply beliefs or opinions that can be changed.
Three questions I always ask myself when I have trouble separating fact from fiction is:
- Is it true?
- Is it logical?
- Is it helpful?
Sometimes it can be hard to separate fact from fiction, especially if you live a stressful life or suffer from chronic anxiety or depression. If this is the case, then this is why its important to write down your thoughts so you can separate fact from fiction with more ease.
For example, if you have been trying to improve your chronic health conditions and have been struggling to make lifestyle changes your thoughts could look like this:
- “I’m never going to be a lose this fat or get off of my diabetes medication…”
- “I’m lazy and will never be able to see results.
- “I’m just like the rest of my family”
- “I sleep through my alarm every morning.”
- I will never be able to get healthy…”
When you are reading through these thoughts, you may believe that all of these thoughts are fact but in reality, most of these thoughts are only opinions. The fact is, “I sleep through my alarm every morning.”
Step 4
The 4th step to shifting your perspective is where you find the opportunity, or where you find the opportunity to shift your perspective about those facts so you can move forward in your life, relationship or career.
For example, if you sleep through your alarm and miss the opportunity to exercise, your opportunity might be that you are excited to find a way to wake up on time and focus on building a body that can support you throughout the day.
You could say, “I Look forward to getting to the bottom of why I have trouble doing what I commit to!”
This will consciously and clearly define the shift you want to make… never under estimate the power of affirmations! When you say affirmations, you are giving your brain the opportunity to find new pathways or solutions for the problems you have. It’s another way for you to allow yourself to flow with life and reduce your stress about the situation.
Step 5
After you find the opportunity, it’s important to reflect and find the stories. This is when you:
- Look back and reflect on how your earlier beliefs were simply stories – fiction instead of facts.
- Consciously choose to take a deep breath and let those things go.
- Visualization might be helpful if you are having trouble.
- Now look forward at the new story you wish to write.
- Define outcomes.
- Get excited about the process, tying emotions to your new story to anchor it in your body and mind.
When you find the opportunity, you are giving your subconscious brain the ability to shift those deep rooted thoughts that have been keeping you stuck and allowing them to shift into more self-serving, life building thoughts.
Shift Your Perspective- Step 6
The final step necessary to shift your perspective is to set goals and choose a way to reach them. This step is my personal favorite because I enjoy making plans and watching the process unfold in me reaching my goals.
If you need help setting goals, then my free 7 Day Healthier, Happier Challenge can help you get your mind right, drop the baggage and set a FABS foundation so you can reach any goal with structure and ease. If this blog helped you then please let me know in the comments. I would love to hear from you!
In Good Health,
Amber Stewart BS,
Holistic Nutritionist
Certified Master Life Coach
ACSM Exercise Physiologist,
CTNC Mental Health Specialist
TBMM Corrective Exercise Specialist
Hi! My name is Amber and I’m a Body Goals Builder, Master Life Coach, Certified Health Coach, CTNC Mental Health Specialist, Stress Alchemist & Fear Conqueror
I used to be a people pleasing, work-a-holic who stressed herself out to climb the wellness industry’s corporate ladder, while obsessing over her self image. I soon realized that none of it mattered if I wasn’t happy with myself, inside and out, and surrounded around people who loved and respected me.
I now help individuals who are stressed out, out of shape and struggling to find balance in their lives learn how to ease their worries, improve their health, create 10x more joy in their lives and manifest the life of their dreams. At the STEW Project, we are maximizing our living potential by Simply Taking an Emphasis on Wellness.
